Showing you’ve thought about the other person is what matters, and on a first date, paying is a way to do that.If you don’t have a lot of money, you can choose an inexpensive date so that you can cover the costs.I once went on a date to a free comedy show with a guy I met online.
Aside from whether men should hold the door for women, few seemingly frivolous issues have fanned the flames of anti-feminism as much as who should pay for dates between men and women.
It’s a subject that seems to never die — see yesterday’s Guardian feature on “Paying while dating” — because there are always a subset of men who insist that it’s absolutely unfair that as the world has gotten closer to gender equality, men are still expected to pick up the check.
A 2014 Nerd Wallet study found that 77 percent of over 1,000 U. respondents expected men to pick up the check on a first date.
Most likely, they will continue to be—perhaps not forever, but certainly for the here and Salon.
“It speaks to a man’s values and shows that he is a gentleman.
Most first dates are just a few cocktails, so this shouldn’t be a burden for men.Beyond a first date, the rules change a bit though and it depends on what you do together.For example, if it’s dinner and an after-dinner cocktail for a second date, it’s great for the woman to pay for the cocktails at the second destination. Ultimately, paying the bill on a date shows It’s a gesture to let someone know you’re interested in them and appreciate them. A date should feel like a treat and it doesn’t when it becomes an accounting transaction.”I have to agree based on my own experience.He said no but when I returned and reported that the bartender had generously comped my seltzer, he said he wished he’d known or he’d have ordered one!In that case, was the one offering to pay, but instead of taking me up on it, he made himself seem like an extreme cheapskate.(Guys: don’t do this.)Yet the who-should-pay decision is a conundrum, as dating and relationship expert Wendy Newman, author of “121 First Dates: How to Succeed at Online Dating, Fall in Love, and Live Happily After (Really!