I also understand the thought process the average single American male uses when engaging in online dating…and I’d like to share a few insights into that process that I believe will improve your online dating experience.
I’m a big believer in the idea of using the web to find love.
Online dating sites give you the opportunity to discover people you’d probably never meet any other way.
So why are so many women I speak to so frustrated with their online dating experience?
I spent a heck of a lot of time using dating sites when I was single, so I can relate to many of the challenges and disappointments almost everyone experiences at some point in their cyber-search for love.
So by all means write your heart out in your personal essays, but don’t stress about it. Unless you’re a professional wordsmith, writing him a long message is not the way to do it.
All you need to do is get on his radar and let him know you’re open to being contacted.You can do that with a wink, flirt, poke or any other (usually free) way your favorite dating site provides you with to get on a guy’s mind.That’s all a man needs to get his curiosity peaked and his adrenaline pumping.He’ll check out your photos and basic info and if he’s interested he’ll contact you. Nothing you can say in a longer message will change his mind. In any case, don’t you want to date a guy who’s man enough to ask you out?If I was designing a new dating site I would make it so that women can only wink or flirt and men can only message.That would make things a lot clearer for everyone involved.