It’s not about response rates…it’s about whether or not you’re getting laid. It’s way too easy for guys to get hung up on response rates when the numbers you should be paying attention to are the ones that actually have to do with sex.
I’ve talked before about how online dating response rates have decreased.
While I have not radically changed anything I’m doing online (other than running my usual crazy experiments, some of them successful and some of them not), other guys out there are getting pretty damn creative in order to combat this response rate reduction.
Before I get into some of the online dating tips these guys (and myself) have used to increase response, I have to repeat something I’ve said many times but still needs to be repeated.
While your average response rate percentage is one of the numbers you should pay attention to, it is not the most important number when it comes to online dating.
It’s actually one of the least important numbers of all the numbers you should be tracking.
I’ve talked many times before about how I get laid online, regularly and easily, with ridiculously low response rates. Sometimes they climb as high as 8% or even 11% and I’m extremely impressed with myself.
However as the linked article above shows, sometimes my response rates are as low as 2%, On the other side of the coin are these guys all over the internet who brag about “50% response rates” or “80% response rates” or whatever.
Every single time I have asked one of these guys how often they’re actually placing their cocks inside new women, the answer I get is deafening silence.
This all ties back to the great maxim of online dating, which is: You will never get laid with online dating if your real-life game sucks.
Its corollary is: The stronger your real-life game is, and the better your target market selection, the less results you need from online in order to have sex with new women.
We’re going to talk about increasing your response rates now, but please keep in mind everything I just explained.