Include the name of the person you are meeting, where you are meeting them and when you expect to be home.Write down any personal information that you have on your date also – like an address or cell phone number, and the dating site you met them on – and give it to your friend or family member. Blame it on your overly protective friend or family if you feel awkward about it.If your date has any issue with this and gets angry or cancels your plans at the last minute then this is a huge indicator that they may not be legitimate.
It seems that you only need to pick up the newspaper or watch the news to hear about the latest financial scam and it’s something that has become an unwelcome part of modern life.So what does this have to do with a dating site you ask?Unfortunately, the anonymity of the internet makes it a perfect place for con artists to hide their real intentions while trying to entrap their victims under the guise of romantic interest.People can easily do a reverse look-up on a phone number and see where you live.Whether their purpose is dangerous or just desperate, you want to steer clear of both of these.
Red Flag #2 When you do finally decide to meet up, decide on a neutral and safe location (a restaurant or a café) and have a friend or family member bring you and let them meet your date.
If you cannot arrange this, make sure you tell someone close to you about your plans.
Don’t get me wrong, the vast majority of members of reputable dating sites (both paid and free) are legitimately looking for a sincere match, but there are red flags that you should look out for when embarking on the journey of online dating for the first time. Red Flag #1 If someone is too interested – too quickly – in getting to know you beyond the safety of your computer, this could indicate a problem.
If you have just met someone online and they are trying to encourage a meet-up before you really know them, they may not just be overly eager.
I would suggest no less than a month of chatting online before calling them – but this should only happen when you feel totally comfortable doing so.
Remember that when you give out your number, unless it is an unlisted number, you are giving out your address as well.