As I stepped off of the elevator, I saw him straight ahead sitting on a glass-topped table in the hallway. That’s when I knew that dating someone who had been married was more complicated than dating someone who had not.There was extra “stuff” to work through – a whole other person from the past worth of stuff.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.
Choices based on the present but without enough regard on the past.
These similarities make me think it is wise for women to ask four questions before dating a divorced man.
Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.
It was the first year I went, and even though it was for singles, I was dating someone at the time, a man previously married. My boyfriend and I spent time together, but we weren’t inseparable like you might think.
At the time this annoyed me, and I wondered if he was as into me as I hoped.
One afternoon I had been on the beach since after the morning general session, but I had not heard from my boyfriend all day.
Finally around , he came to the beach and explained to me that he had gone to lunch with a group of people.
Needless to say, this created a heated conversation of why he didn’t invite me to come along with him.
It was also a red flag that my suspicions were right – we didn’t share the same level of interest in each other.
When the night was over I went to his hotel room to see if he was there. Then he said, “Here I am a 34-year-old man at a singles’ retreat.”SEE ALSO: Are You Praying for These 5 Areas of Your Husband's Life?