The experience left her scarred, and she remains unsure if she’ll ever use a dating app again.
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“I think when you message someone on a dating app, you feel like you know people better than you do,” says Grace*, a 21-year-old Hong Kong student and former Tinder user.
“When you write a lot of messages, you think you know him well, but over time people can be different.
They can disguise it quite a few times and when you eventually know what they are it is too late.” Grace no longer uses dating apps – and understandably so.
A fleeting relationship with a Tinder match, an Australian expat, left her pregnant; she felt no other option but to have an abortion when he offered no support.
I don’t think Hong Kong teenagers discuss romance with their parents.
We are not very expressive, particularly in Cantonese, it is hard to tell parents cheesy things.
And people’s parents can be very conservative.” Momo love to give: uncensored insight into behaviour, desires of Chinese using dating apps Young men voiced similar feelings about dating apps, particularly Tinder. I’ve gone through a couple, and I could honestly say you can really never get what you want from it.
Speaking to twentysomethings who have grown up in the city, the majority felt although dating apps were providing opportunities to meet prospective partners, few of these dates were resulting in meaningful relationships, but rather short-term flings or one-night stands.
“I think dating apps are still a taboo,” says Grace.
“You are not proud of using them but you do it anyway.
I think you can use it but you just don’t tell your parents.