Men in New York treat women terribly and brag about it in Vanity Fair. The VF article is a retread of a topic that’s been beaten to death by the media and dating bloggers for almost two years, but VF decided to hang out with a bunch of New Yorkers who rack up Tinder sex-mates like there’s no tomorrow and talk to them like they are adults or something.The writer clearly emerged from a cave last week and the first thing they did was go on a Tinder date and now she’s scarred for life.Surprised the cover photo wasn’t an Annie Liebowitz-styled image of a 24-year old guy in a ,500 suit crawling down a fire escape at 4am while looking at Tinder, on his way to conquer one more target before dragging himself back to his ,000 a month apartment he shares with a bunch of neckbeards learning how to code while working at Venture-funded almost-hot Startup X.
The guys are swiping right to hook up and it’s all just a game.” Give me a break.The women who enable men to behave this way are just as complicit in the degradation of modern courtship as Tinder is.And Tinder is at the bottom of the pile, along with Ashley Madison.In New York legs are spreading like there’s no tomorrow and in Japan people are so timid they have to date pillows and robots and fake women on texting services. Can someone go to Japan and help those poor people out? 62% of Tinder users are actually in a relationship. Remember what happened with Ashley Madison last month? By that time we’ll be so callous towards each other that everyone will just laugh. How many of those swipes are artificially inflated by spammers and bots? What is the equivalent of a right-swipe on a dating service? If I email you and you email me back, that’s a match. Back when he was the Co-founder of Ok Cupid, and they always said Match wasn’t worth the money and nobody should have to pay for a dating site. million for Sam and his team and now he’s at the helm of the company that’s changing society in ways they can’t stop, or even fathom because they’re right in the middle of it. Maybe Mandy Ginsberg got out of Match at the right time.“Honey, you know, it was just me and the guys having fun at the bar.” Can we talk about the 26 million matches made every day on Tinder? She’s now the CEO of The Princeton Review and on the board of JC Penny. Tinder’s definition of a match as two people physically moving their fingers about a quarter of an inch to the right compared with writing and responding to emails. You do understand that acquisitions like POF are arranged years in advance, right? 5M for a company where what, 20% of it’s users leave every month! Online dating is barely recognizable from when I started covering it in 2002.
Why doesn’t anyone compare Tinder’s performance to other dating sites? Comparing swipes to responded-to emails is ridiculous; they’re not even comparable. And neither does anyone else, because all I read about in the media are stories about people on Tinder hooking up three times a week and 25 million matches a day. Raised millions of dollars and copied much of Tinder and now it’s one of the most used services? It’s not like Sam Yagan and company woke up a few months ago with the brand-new burning desire to acquire POF. Markus destroyed Zoosk and a ton of competitors, warts and all, and gets a half-billion for the effort. Yes of course there are well-run sites captained by fantastic people, but those companies are extremely rare. Julie Spira says that women are meeting men on Tinder to change them. Almost a year ago I wrote, Can Dating Sites Make Us More Civil? Online dating has turned a large portion of the dating population into a bunch of maladjusted sexaholics (for the most part, if you read anything in the media about online dating these days).
But we’re talking about Tinder here, so anything goes. Whenever two people like or favorite each other’s photos on a dating service, they are a match. Match CEO Greg Blatt Two years ago: I think domestically, there’s nothing that we need to own, meaning we’ve got sort of everything checked off. If you want to change the way men relate to women, Tinder is not the right medium to make that happen.
The service is waitlisting members with a promise to make it easy for Americans to find the ideal Canadian partner to save them from the unfathomable horror of a Trump presidency.
I have never had a tweet retweeted so much, my phone has been blowing up so much that my girlfriend made me turn off notifications.
I couldn’t even bring myself to finish the VF article.
Story after story about relationship-challenged New Yorkers.